Every day we interact with others in some manner. Sometimes, it is a simple hello. Other times it is an in-depth conversation. Additionally, for some of us, we find ourselves advising those who seek our input. Conversation dynamics are vast and complex, and engaging in dialogue comes more naturally to some.
In regards to myself, I love talking! I make my best attempt to not overpower a conversation, but if someone asks about my opinion or experience, I will do just as they asked! I truly enjoy conversing with others!
Some time ago when I was visiting home, I made certain that I went and visited an elderly neighbor of mine. This man and my family are very close, and I know that whenever I meet with him, he will inspire or encourage me in some way.
With this visit, I was not disappointed.
My boyfriend had come along with me to say hello, so my neighbor gave him a tour of his home. During his tour, I noticed a sign that rested against the wall that said, “There is always, always, always, something to be thankful for.”
I had to read the sign a second time for it caught me off guard. There is ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS something to be thankful for. Well, I already know that. Right? But, how quickly I, and probably some of you, get caught up with our daily routines that we forget to stop and reflect on what exactly we have been blessed with. Why is it that a simple sign had to remind me of this?
With this realization and self-conviction, I commented to my neighbor that I appreciated his sign, and he had lots to say about it. He not only reemphasized the importance of its message, but he also brought up another point. He said, “sometimes what we share with others needs to come right back to our ears.” He shared that we will be quick to remind others of simple things such as remembering to be grateful, but we also need to hear it too.
Internally, we recognize concepts and insights such as this, but we don’t actively apply them within our own lives.
For some, giving advice or even confronting another individual is natural. I find this true with myself. Please don’t hear me saying that this is a bad thing! That is if It is done so appropriately. However, sometimes I will give advice or a recommendation but quickly dismiss it when applying it to myself, just as my neighbor shared.
So, when advising or encouraging another individual, sometimes we need to hear what we are sharing too. It can be confrontational at times, but it will allow us to remain humble and grounded. Remember that.
